Reconciling Pleasing the Mother and Providing for the Wife

Question:
May Allah reward you, Your Excellency the Shaykh, and benefit us and the Muslims with your knowledge. The questioner says: My mother gets very angry when I spend anything visible on my wife, such as gold gifts and the like, and problems arise in my home because of this. My wife demands this, and I am confused about the matter. How do I reconcile this in such a situation? May Allah reward you.

Answer:
Yes. You must please your mother. You must please your mother and seek her permission in this matter. Even if it leads to you bringing her something that pleases her heart. Bring her a gift. Bring her something that pleases her heart. Then this will remove, if Allah wills, what is in her heart. But perhaps you do not consult her, do not seek her permission, and do not give her anything that pleases her heart. This is what makes her angry with you. Yes. Or perhaps your wife is ill-mannered toward her, and she wants to take revenge on her. So you also observe that your wife is polite toward your mother, yes.