Is it permissible for a wife to remain in the house alone with her husband's brother?
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The questioner : Is it permissible for my brother to stay with my wife in the house alone, while I and the rest of the family go to pray in the Sacred Mosque?
The Shaykh : It is not permissible; this is forbidden, forbidden, forbidden, for a man's wife to remain in the house alone with his brother. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1171Sahih (Darussalam) And "Iyyakum" means in the Arabic language, what does it mean? It means warning; it means warning. Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1171Sahih (Darussalam) They said: Mishkat al-Masabih 3102 And "al-Hamaw" are the relatives of the husband, meaning they enter the house of their relative. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Say, "My brother." Is this a warning or an approval? It is a warning. Explain that. Yes, it is a warning, and it is not an approval, because whenever anyone dies, the relatives of the husband must enter the house of their relative.
May Allah bless you. Well, this is undoubtedly a warning, meaning one flees from the relatives of the husband just as one flees from death. Everyone flees from death and does not want death, so he said the relatives of the husband are death. The explanation is that when the relatives of the husband enter the house of their relative, it is not considered wrong, and they say, "This man entered the house of his cousin, he entered the house of his brother," and so on, and harm occurs. So I say it is forbidden for a man to leave his wife with his brother in the house, whether he goes to pray in the mosque, goes to a lesson at school, or otherwise; it is forbidden. But, my brothers, let us solve the problem. If a man has work in the government, and he has a wife and his brother, and his brother has no work, what does he do when he goes to his work in the government?
The presenter : Please proceed.
The Shaykh : Yes, stop completely, meaning he takes his brother with him; his brother goes with him. Well, ask, this is a solution. He says to his brother, "Walk with me, you and I." He says, "Well, I have no work." He says, "I will sit at the door, at the work entrance, until I finish and I will come with you." This is a solution, but is this possible or not possible? This is not possible, and if it is possible, it is difficult. Well, another solution? He takes the wife to her family. If she goes to her family, will she not return?
What do we do? What do you say about this solution? This solution is certainly easier than the first; he takes her to her family, and this will be a joy for her; she stays with her mother and sisters, for example, until her husband comes. This solution is easier than the first solution, but even so, there is something in it. Is there a third option where he puts her in a room and locks the door on her until he returns? Does he provide her with drinks and food? And does the house have windows for air?
In any case, this is a third solution; opinions are by consultation. This is a third solution, but I find this difficult, meaning that he imprisons his wife in a room; it is difficult. Well, she has no mahram. She has no mahram; her father is at work and her brothers are at school. Be patient, my sister. Well, is there a second solution? He marries a second wife. He marries a second wife, and then the seclusion is removed. Yes, this is a solution, and I think this is the best of the solutions. Well, here. He takes from whom? The woman? No, no, no, this is not correct.
Well, there is another solution besides what I mentioned regarding marrying another woman, which is that he places his brother in a part of the house, in what is called among us the annex. Some people now make an annex on the side of the house with all its amenities, from the bathroom and everything. He places his brother in this annex, as if he is in an apartment in a building, and he places the woman in the house and locks the door between the house and this annex. This is an easy solution; this is an easy solution, and it is sufficient, if Allah wills. What?
And this is also a solution, that he looks for a wife for his brother. This is also a good solution, but these things may not be feasible; he may be poor, or his brother may not want to marry. In any case, we now have seven solutions, and the closest to me are two things. The first thing is that he marries a second wife, by which the seclusion is removed. The second is that he places his brother in the annex, away from the main part of the house, and makes a door between the annex and the house and locks the door. This is easier than imprisoning her in a room and locking the door on her.
The Shaykh : It is not permissible; this is forbidden, forbidden, forbidden, for a man's wife to remain in the house alone with his brother. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Beware of entering upon women.
إياكم والدخول على النساءBeware of entering upon women.
إياكم والدخول على النساءMessenger of God, tell me about the relatives of a woman’s husband
يا رسول الله أرأيت الحموThe relatives of the husband are death
الحمو الموتThe relatives of the husband are death.
الحمو الموت.The relatives of the husband are death
الحمو الموتMay Allah bless you. Well, this is undoubtedly a warning, meaning one flees from the relatives of the husband just as one flees from death. Everyone flees from death and does not want death, so he said the relatives of the husband are death. The explanation is that when the relatives of the husband enter the house of their relative, it is not considered wrong, and they say, "This man entered the house of his cousin, he entered the house of his brother," and so on, and harm occurs. So I say it is forbidden for a man to leave his wife with his brother in the house, whether he goes to pray in the mosque, goes to a lesson at school, or otherwise; it is forbidden. But, my brothers, let us solve the problem. If a man has work in the government, and he has a wife and his brother, and his brother has no work, what does he do when he goes to his work in the government?
The presenter : Please proceed.
The Shaykh : Yes, stop completely, meaning he takes his brother with him; his brother goes with him. Well, ask, this is a solution. He says to his brother, "Walk with me, you and I." He says, "Well, I have no work." He says, "I will sit at the door, at the work entrance, until I finish and I will come with you." This is a solution, but is this possible or not possible? This is not possible, and if it is possible, it is difficult. Well, another solution? He takes the wife to her family. If she goes to her family, will she not return?
What do we do? What do you say about this solution? This solution is certainly easier than the first; he takes her to her family, and this will be a joy for her; she stays with her mother and sisters, for example, until her husband comes. This solution is easier than the first solution, but even so, there is something in it. Is there a third option where he puts her in a room and locks the door on her until he returns? Does he provide her with drinks and food? And does the house have windows for air?
In any case, this is a third solution; opinions are by consultation. This is a third solution, but I find this difficult, meaning that he imprisons his wife in a room; it is difficult. Well, she has no mahram. She has no mahram; her father is at work and her brothers are at school. Be patient, my sister. Well, is there a second solution? He marries a second wife. He marries a second wife, and then the seclusion is removed. Yes, this is a solution, and I think this is the best of the solutions. Well, here. He takes from whom? The woman? No, no, no, this is not correct.
Well, there is another solution besides what I mentioned regarding marrying another woman, which is that he places his brother in a part of the house, in what is called among us the annex. Some people now make an annex on the side of the house with all its amenities, from the bathroom and everything. He places his brother in this annex, as if he is in an apartment in a building, and he places the woman in the house and locks the door between the house and this annex. This is an easy solution; this is an easy solution, and it is sufficient, if Allah wills. What?
And this is also a solution, that he looks for a wife for his brother. This is also a good solution, but these things may not be feasible; he may be poor, or his brother may not want to marry. In any case, we now have seven solutions, and the closest to me are two things. The first thing is that he marries a second wife, by which the seclusion is removed. The second is that he places his brother in the annex, away from the main part of the house, and makes a door between the annex and the house and locks the door. This is easier than imprisoning her in a room and locking the door on her.
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قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 12 - 45 - دروس وفتاوى المسجد الحرام للعام 1417 هـ - الدرس الثاني عشر - الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين — youtube.com (43:55)
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