Advice for the one who treats his wife harshly

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Question:
There are some harsh men who treat women with harshness, devoid of mercy, compassion, and tenderness; rather, they issue strict orders. We ask Your Eminence to direct a word to these men. May Allah reward you with good. Do women have rights over men?

Answer:
The obligatory duty is to treat one's wife well, to use good manners with her, to show her mercy, and to be compassionate toward her. Allah the Exalted said:

And live with them in kindness.

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

[An-Nisa 4:19]

And He said:

And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable

وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

[Al-Baqarah 2:228]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

The best of you are the best of you toward their wives, and I am the best of you toward my family

خياركم خياركم لنسائكم، وأنا خيركم لأهلي

A believer should be soft and gentle with his family, cheerful and merciful. Yes. He should not be harsh or rough. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was the best of people toward his family (peace and blessings be upon him). He had a pleasant demeanor, he would be gentle with them and joke with them (peace and blessings be upon him). It is not fitting for a believer to be harsh or rough with his family; rather, he should be soft, kind, merciful, and compassionate. This is how a believer should be. This is the meaning of the saying of Allah the Exalted: "And live with them in kindness"

And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable

وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

[Al-Baqarah 2:228]

May Allah grant all of you success and guidance. Perhaps this is sufficient.

Source قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 159 نصيحة لمن يعامل زوجته بقسوة للإمام ابن باز — youtube.com

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