How should one advise one's parents if they commit some sins?
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This questioner says: How should one advise one's parents if they commit some sins? And if my father orders me to shave my beard and cut off ties with my brothers, what is my duty toward him? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory to advise one's parents, for they are the most deserving of your advice. You call them to Allah and warn them against sins and transgressions. Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, says:[Ash-Shu'ara 26:214] And Allah mentioned regarding Isma'il that he [Maryam 19:55]. Our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded us, saying: "Enjoin prayer upon your family." And the most deserving of your family and relatives are your parents. You advise them, admonish them, and remind them. You make clear to them the path of salvation. They are the most deserving of your advice, then your children, then your household. However, if he orders you to commit a sin, such as shaving your beard, letting your garment hang below the ankles, or buying him tobacco or the like, this is a sin, and it is not permissible for you to obey him in it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Mishkat al-Masabih 3696 And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Obedience is only in what is good." And Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, says: [Luqman 31:15] So they are not to be obeyed in shirk (associating partners with Allah) or in any other sin. Do not say that this is part of dutifulness to them, that you obey them by shaving the beard or by committing a sin in the name of being dutiful to them. This is not dutifulness; this is a sin.
This questioner says: How should one advise one's parents if they commit some sins? And if my father orders me to shave my beard and cut off ties with my brothers, what is my duty toward him? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory to advise one's parents, for they are the most deserving of your advice. You call them to Allah and warn them against sins and transgressions. Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, says:
And warn, [O Muhammad], your closest kindred.
وَأَنذِرْ عَشِيرَتَكَ الْأَقْرَبِينَAnd he used to enjoin on his people prayer and zakah
وَكَانَ يَأْمُرُ أَهْلَهُ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَالزَّكَاةِGod’s Messenger as saying, “A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
صلى الله عليه وسلم لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقBut if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them
وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا
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قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، كيف يكون النصح للوالدَيْن إذا ارتكبا بعض المعاصي؟ #فتاوى الفوزان — youtube.com
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