Which is more deserving of a response: the friend or the relative, if they are at the same time?

Question : And after a moment, in the same situation, an invitation came from a relative.

Answer : Which is the first? My dear uncle. Yes, he is one of them. Even if you were to make an excuse to him, but if he is a relative, as I said a moment ago, a person loses out if he does not attend. And he asks why? And people start making comments about this, saying there is enmity between him and his relative, or something like that. So here, you should make an excuse to the friend. And, my brother, after I took the card from you, an invitation came from so-and-so, and he is a relative. And if I were to be absent, people would ask why? They would put many question marks. So please, grant me a dispensation; there is nothing wrong with it, okay?