What is the ruling on a man who insults his wife, beats her, and boycotts her for a long time
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Question : Honorable Shaykh, this woman on the line asks: What is the ruling on a man who insults his family and his wife, and treats this wife with harshness and violence, and has boycotted her for a long time? What is the ruling in this case? May you be rewarded.
Answer : I say it is not permissible for a person to transgress against his wife in word or deed, and it is obligatory for both spouses to treat each other with kindness. This is based on the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He: “And live with them in kindness.” And if a husband uses foul language toward his wife, or boycotts her without a legitimate religious reason, then he is committing a sin thereby.
However, we do not say that this husband about whom the woman asked is sinful, because we do not know what is behind it; perhaps he boycotted her because of her marital defiance or for some other reason. For this reason, Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, said:[An-Nisa 4:34] But from the complaints of spouses that we hear,
it becomes clear to us that the ones who commit the most injustice are the men, and that they always wrong their women. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih Muslim 1218a Sunan Abi Dawud 1905Sahih (Al-Albani) So it is obligatory for a person not to weaken the woman, transgress against her, and to honor her rights.
For she will be his opponent on the Day of Resurrection. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) guided how a man should treat his wife, saying: “A believer does not hate a believing woman; that is, he does not dislike her. If he dislikes a trait in her, he should be pleased with another trait in her.” Yes.
Answer : I say it is not permissible for a person to transgress against his wife in word or deed, and it is obligatory for both spouses to treat each other with kindness. This is based on the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He: “And live with them in kindness.” And if a husband uses foul language toward his wife, or boycotts her without a legitimate religious reason, then he is committing a sin thereby.
However, we do not say that this husband about whom the woman asked is sinful, because we do not know what is behind it; perhaps he boycotted her because of her marital defiance or for some other reason. For this reason, Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, said:
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّit becomes clear to us that the ones who commit the most injustice are the men, and that they always wrong their women. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
(peace and blessings be upon him) in his sermon during the Year of the Farewell Pilgrimage: “Fear Allah regarding women.
صلى الله عليه وسلم في خطبته عام حجة الوداع اتقوا الله في النساء.Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah
فإنكم أخذتموهن بأمان الله.have the right to intercourse with them by Allaah’s word
واستحللتم فروجهن بكلمة الله،For she will be his opponent on the Day of Resurrection. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) guided how a man should treat his wife, saying: “A believer does not hate a believing woman; that is, he does not dislike her. If he dislikes a trait in her, he should be pleased with another trait in her.” Yes.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 2571- ما حكم من يسب زوجته ويضربها ويهجرها هجر طويل/سؤال على الهاتف 📞 /ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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