The ruling on a woman giving from her maintenance to her children from a previous husband

The questioner : The questioner says: My mother is married to a man other than my father, and he pays my mother the household expenses every month, and he leaves it to her discretion to deal with me. Is it permissible for me to take what my mother gives me from it, knowing that when my mother gives me this money, she hides it from her husband?

The Shaykh : If this is the meaning. With me.

The questioner : Knowing that when my mother gives me this money, she hides it from her husband.

The Shaykh : And what, what?

The questioner : The money.

The Shaykh : When she gives you this money, what?

The questioner : When you... you...

The Shaykh : Yes.

The questioner : If this money is not permissible for me, what do I do with what I have taken before? And I fear that if I speak openly to my husband or my mother about this matter, I will cause problems between them. I fear, may Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh : From this question, I understood that this son is not the son of her current husband, but rather a son from a previous husband. If her husband gives her money as ownership, she is free with it; she deals with it as she wishes, gives to whom she wishes, and withholds from whom she wishes. But if he gives her this money as maintenance, meaning as maintenance for her, and whatever remains she returns to him, then she does not give you anything from it without consulting him. However, the common practice is that a man gives his wife money as ownership. If that is the case, there is no blame on you for taking what your mother gives you.