Her husband traveled and left her and her children, and she has a mischievous son who does not listen to her, and she constantly prays against him. What is obligatory upon her?
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Question:
Abu Bakr has a long letter and a long question as well, the summary of which is that her husband traveled and left her and her children, and she has a son who is eleven years old, but he is mischievous and negligent in his studies and does not listen to her, and she constantly prays against him. So she asks: What is obligatory upon the husband in such a situation? And what is obligatory upon her as well? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory upon the husband not to neglect his children, because they are a flock for which he is responsible, and Allah will question him about his flock on the Day of Resurrection. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
And he is responsible for his children; it is not permissible for him to leave them, neglect them, or be absent from them for a long time, leaving them to wander and abandon prayer and other matters of their religion, or to be exposed to corruption in their morals and their honor. This is a great trust, and a flock for which he is responsible before the Most Wise of Judges on the Day of Resurrection.
And the mother is likewise required to educate her children, command them to do what is right, and forbid them from doing what is wrong, because she is also responsible for them. She is included in the statement of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "Order your children to pray at seven, and beat them for it at ten." She is included in this address because they are her children.
So she must continue to advise them and take care of them. As for praying against them, this is not prescribed. The obligatory thing is the opposite: to pray for them for guidance. Likewise, every wrongdoer, even if he is not a relative or a child, the prescribed thing is to pray for him for guidance, especially the parent, whose supplication is answered. So he should not make his supplication against them for punishment, but rather make his supplication for them for good, righteousness, and guidance, perhaps Allah will answer it.
Abu Bakr has a long letter and a long question as well, the summary of which is that her husband traveled and left her and her children, and she has a son who is eleven years old, but he is mischievous and negligent in his studies and does not listen to her, and she constantly prays against him. So she asks: What is obligatory upon the husband in such a situation? And what is obligatory upon her as well? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory upon the husband not to neglect his children, because they are a flock for which he is responsible, and Allah will question him about his flock on the Day of Resurrection. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock. And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Order your children to pray at seven, beat them for it at ten, and separate them in their beds."
كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته، ويقول صلى الله عليه وسلم مروا أولادكم بالصلاة لسبع واضربوهم عليها لعشر، وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع.And he is responsible for his children; it is not permissible for him to leave them, neglect them, or be absent from them for a long time, leaving them to wander and abandon prayer and other matters of their religion, or to be exposed to corruption in their morals and their honor. This is a great trust, and a flock for which he is responsible before the Most Wise of Judges on the Day of Resurrection.
And the mother is likewise required to educate her children, command them to do what is right, and forbid them from doing what is wrong, because she is also responsible for them. She is included in the statement of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "Order your children to pray at seven, and beat them for it at ten." She is included in this address because they are her children.
So she must continue to advise them and take care of them. As for praying against them, this is not prescribed. The obligatory thing is the opposite: to pray for them for guidance. Likewise, every wrongdoer, even if he is not a relative or a child, the prescribed thing is to pray for him for guidance, especially the parent, whose supplication is answered. So he should not make his supplication against them for punishment, but rather make his supplication for them for good, righteousness, and guidance, perhaps Allah will answer it.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، زوجها سافر وتركها وترك أولادها،ولها ولد شقي، لا يستمع إلى كلامها، وتدعو عليه دائما، ما الواجب عليها؟ — youtube.com
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