The ruling on rejecting a righteous man and accepting a disobedient one in marriage
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The questioner:
A woman asks: Some women become desperate for the fate of the first suitor and marriage to a righteous man, and they rush to agree to a disobedient man. Some women even refuse to marry a righteous man because he is already married, and they accept a disobedient man and marry him, saying, "Perhaps Allah will guide you through your guidance." What is your opinion regarding the Sunnah?
The Shaykh:
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) established a criterion for this. He said: "When there comes to you a man whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, and in another narration, whose character you are pleased with, then marry your daughters to him."[Al-Anfal 8:73] If a righteous man in his religion, trustworthiness, and character proposes to a woman, she should not let him go, because if she lets him go, the proposal may be withdrawn and they may leave her. So do not miss the opportunity. It is incumbent upon one to be the best of people, or else what is desired will not be attained. Even if he has some deficiency or fault, we all have deficiencies and faults, may Allah the Exalted forgive us. One should seek the best of the best at all times, according to his capacity.
The questioner:
This is part of the confusion of the calamity.
The Shaykh:
And for the disbelievers and every sinner, Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) said:[Al-Anfal 8:38] He said (Glorified and Exalted is He): [Al-Baqarah 2:160] So the one who repents, Allah accepts his repentance. And He said: [Al-Furqan 25:68-70] except those who repent among them. The polytheist does not invoke anyone alongside Allah. So if he repents to Allah, leaves off invoking anyone other than Allah, and purifies the oneness of Allah, then Allah accepts his repentance. So repentance wipes out what came before it of all sins, of shirk (associating partners with Allah), of kufr (disbelief), of nifaq (hypocrisy), of sins and disobedience, and of all transgressions.
A woman asks: Some women become desperate for the fate of the first suitor and marriage to a righteous man, and they rush to agree to a disobedient man. Some women even refuse to marry a righteous man because he is already married, and they accept a disobedient man and marry him, saying, "Perhaps Allah will guide you through your guidance." What is your opinion regarding the Sunnah?
The Shaykh:
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) established a criterion for this. He said: "When there comes to you a man whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, and in another narration, whose character you are pleased with, then marry your daughters to him."
If you do not do so, there will be fitnah on earth and great corruption.
إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُن فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ كَبِيرٌThe questioner:
This is part of the confusion of the calamity.
The Shaykh:
And for the disbelievers and every sinner, Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) said:
Say to those who have disbelieved [that] if they cease, what has
قُل لِّلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا إِن يَنتَهُوا يُغْفَرْ لَهُم مَّا قَدْExcept for those who repent and correct themselves
إِلَّا الَّذِينَ تَابُوا وَأَصْلَحُوا(68) And those who do not invoke with Allah another deity or kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed], except by right, and do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse. And whoever should do that will meet a penalty. (69) Multiplied for him is the punishment on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein humiliated - (70) Except for those who
وَالَّذِينَ لَا يَدْعُونَ مَعَ اللَّهِ إِلَٰهًا آخَرَ وَلَا يَقْتُلُونَ النَّفْسَ الَّتِي حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ إِلَّا بِالْحَقِّ وَلَا يَزْنُونَ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ يَلْقَ أَثَامًا يُضَاعَفْ لَهُ الْعَذَابُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَيَخْلُدْ فِيهِ مُهَانًا إِلَّا مَن تَابَ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، محاضرات في العقيدة والدعوة-11-التوحيد يا عباد الله|صالح الفوزان|العام|كبار العلماء — youtube.com (1:11:25)
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