Guidance on entrusting the responsibility of raising children to household nannies

Question:
Honorable Shaykh, the questioner says: Regarding the upbringing of children, is it the mother's responsibility or the father's? And what is your opinion on raising them with a nanny?

Answer:
This is a question about custody: who has the stronger right to it? This is a judicial matter. If there is a dispute between the father and the mother regarding custody, they must refer to the court. As for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding the nanny, this is a mistake and a deception of the child. It is obligatory that his family raise him, his father or his mother. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Therefore, those responsible for raising the child are his two parents. For this reason, when the parents or one of them grows old, he is kind to them and says: If they did not raise him, and only the nanny raised him, as he says, or a daycare center, then he does not deserve this reward from Allah the Exalted. Perhaps the child will not turn out well, or the child will acquire bad morals, and the parents are the ones responsible for him and his upbringing. Yes.