The ruling on marrying a woman whom one's parents oppose
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. A questioner from the Arab Republic of Egypt, residing in al-Madinah al-Munawwarah, says that he is twenty-nine years old. He found a girl who possessed all the suitable qualities of commitment and lack of rebellion, and he became emotionally attached to her, as he says, for seven years. When he wanted to marry her, all of his family opposed it. So how should he act in that case? And is he considered undutiful to his parents if he defies them and marries that girl? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
This is what is obligatory in uniting words and pleasing the parents. And women, praise be to Allah, are many. If his marriage to this girl leads to misunderstanding between him and his parents, his relatives, and his family, then the harm that results from that is greater than the benefit obtained from marrying her. Meanwhile, women are many, praise be to Allah, and uniting words is required, and pleasing the parents is also required. And Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says:[Al-Baqarah 2:216] Should he not refrain from striving to marry this girl as long as his parents and relatives are opposing his marriage to her?
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. A questioner from the Arab Republic of Egypt, residing in al-Madinah al-Munawwarah, says that he is twenty-nine years old. He found a girl who possessed all the suitable qualities of commitment and lack of rebellion, and he became emotionally attached to her, as he says, for seven years. When he wanted to marry her, all of his family opposed it. So how should he act in that case? And is he considered undutiful to his parents if he defies them and marries that girl? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
This is what is obligatory in uniting words and pleasing the parents. And women, praise be to Allah, are many. If his marriage to this girl leads to misunderstanding between him and his parents, his relatives, and his family, then the harm that results from that is greater than the benefit obtained from marrying her. Meanwhile, women are many, praise be to Allah, and uniting words is required, and pleasing the parents is also required. And Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says:
and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you
وَعَسَىٰ أَن تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4861- حكم الزواج بمن يعارض الوالدان الزواج بها - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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