Repentance from Undutifulness to Parents
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good. I heard the Honorable Shaykh, the imam and khatib of our mosque, say that one of the most severe forms of undutifulness to parents is looking at them with a bad eye from which sparks of anger fly. I was like that, but I realized it after it was too late. My mother has passed away, and my father preceded her. What should I do? Is there any repentance required of me? Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Yes, this is undutifulness to parents: looking at them with anger, raising your voice at them, or other forms of mistreatment. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Isra 17:23-24] [Al-Isra 17:24]. The mistreatment you committed against your parents, or one of them, is undoubtedly a serious sin.
You must repent to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) and seek His forgiveness. Since they have died, you are also required to seek forgiveness for them, make du'a' for them, and increase in doing so. You should also give charity on their behalf with the intention of the reward being for them. This is part of being dutiful to them and doing good to them, and perhaps Allah will expiate what happened from you, along with your repentance to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). Yes.
May Allah reward you with good. I heard the Honorable Shaykh, the imam and khatib of our mosque, say that one of the most severe forms of undutifulness to parents is looking at them with a bad eye from which sparks of anger fly. I was like that, but I realized it after it was too late. My mother has passed away, and my father preceded her. What should I do? Is there any repentance required of me? Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Yes, this is undutifulness to parents: looking at them with anger, raising your voice at them, or other forms of mistreatment. Allah the Exalted said:
(23) And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (24) And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَout of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاYou must repent to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) and seek His forgiveness. Since they have died, you are also required to seek forgiveness for them, make du'a' for them, and increase in doing so. You should also give charity on their behalf with the intention of the reward being for them. This is part of being dutiful to them and doing good to them, and perhaps Allah will expiate what happened from you, along with your repentance to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4391- التوبة من عقوق الوالدين - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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