Is it permissible for a husband to quarrel with his wife if she asks him for money?
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The questioner:
May Allah reward you. She says: If my husband is asked for money, even if it is a small amount, he quarrels with me and gets very angry. Sometimes he does not speak to me for many times over a long period, and then we reconcile. What should I do? Should I refrain from asking him? And if I do, where will I get the money from? I need it to buy what my children need, and he is sometimes short with them.
The Shaykh:
This husband must not put his wife in a difficult position or distress her to this extent. Rather, he must fear Allah and seek provision through means other than this. At the very least, he must borrow from his brothers or friends, or take out a loan.
The questioner:
Excuse me, Shaykh, when you say that if she asks him for money, even a little, he quarrels with her and gets angry.
The Shaykh:
Likewise, it is not permissible for him to be stingy with her maintenance or the maintenance of her children. It is not permissible, because this is a right that is obligatory upon him. It is obligatory upon him to spend on his wife and his children without being averse to this, or disowning it, or getting angry about it; because it is a right that is obligatory upon him.
The questioner:
She asks: Should I stop asking him for money?
The Shaykh:
Do not stop asking him for money unless you are able to do without it. But if you are in need of this money, then it is your right to demand it, even if he gets angry. Yes.
May Allah reward you. She says: If my husband is asked for money, even if it is a small amount, he quarrels with me and gets very angry. Sometimes he does not speak to me for many times over a long period, and then we reconcile. What should I do? Should I refrain from asking him? And if I do, where will I get the money from? I need it to buy what my children need, and he is sometimes short with them.
The Shaykh:
This husband must not put his wife in a difficult position or distress her to this extent. Rather, he must fear Allah and seek provision through means other than this. At the very least, he must borrow from his brothers or friends, or take out a loan.
The questioner:
Excuse me, Shaykh, when you say that if she asks him for money, even a little, he quarrels with her and gets angry.
The Shaykh:
Likewise, it is not permissible for him to be stingy with her maintenance or the maintenance of her children. It is not permissible, because this is a right that is obligatory upon him. It is obligatory upon him to spend on his wife and his children without being averse to this, or disowning it, or getting angry about it; because it is a right that is obligatory upon him.
The questioner:
She asks: Should I stop asking him for money?
The Shaykh:
Do not stop asking him for money unless you are able to do without it. But if you are in need of this money, then it is your right to demand it, even if he gets angry. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 5604- هل يصح للزوج التشاجر مع زوجته إذا طلبت منه المال؟ - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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