The rights of a man over his wife and children
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Question:
May Allah reward you. A message has reached me. Your brother Abu 'Awf says: I want the Honorable Shaykh (may Allah preserve him) to clarify for us the rights of a man over his wife and his children, for I see that some people have forgotten this matter and are ignorant of this simple matter among us, which is great in the sight of Allah the Exalted. So guide us in this.
Answer:
Yes, a man has a right over his wife in good treatment. She must obey him in anything other than disobedience to Allah, she must not leave his house except with his permission, and she must not allow anyone he dislikes into his house except with his permission. If he asks for her in the bedroom, she should hasten to him and not refuse him. She must attend to the needs of the house, just as he attends to earning a livelihood outside the house. There should be cooperation between the spouses. She must not fast voluntarily except with his permission, and she must not travel for anything other than the obligatory Hajj except with his permission. These are among his rights over her.
As for the right of the parents over their children, it is a great right. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, commanded dutifulness to parents and kindness toward them,[Al-Isra 17:23], and We have enjoined upon man kindness to his parents, [Luqman 31:14]. So the right of the parents over their children is a great right, and failing to fulfill this right is considered undutifulness to parents, and undutifulness to parents is among the major sins, may Allah protect us from it. Yes.
May Allah reward you. A message has reached me. Your brother Abu 'Awf says: I want the Honorable Shaykh (may Allah preserve him) to clarify for us the rights of a man over his wife and his children, for I see that some people have forgotten this matter and are ignorant of this simple matter among us, which is great in the sight of Allah the Exalted. So guide us in this.
Answer:
Yes, a man has a right over his wife in good treatment. She must obey him in anything other than disobedience to Allah, she must not leave his house except with his permission, and she must not allow anyone he dislikes into his house except with his permission. If he asks for her in the bedroom, she should hasten to him and not refuse him. She must attend to the needs of the house, just as he attends to earning a livelihood outside the house. There should be cooperation between the spouses. She must not fast voluntarily except with his permission, and she must not travel for anything other than the obligatory Hajj except with his permission. These are among his rights over her.
As for the right of the parents over their children, it is a great right. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, commanded dutifulness to parents and kindness toward them,
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَاAnd We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 6449- حقوق الرجل على زوجته وأولاده - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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