How do we respond to those who say it is permissible to make du'a' (supplication) at the grave itself, citing the hadith, "We ask Allah for health for us and for you"?

Question:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. Many questions are asked regarding one issue, and they say that a doubtful matter (shubhah) has been presented to them: how do we respond to those who say it is permissible to make du'a' at the grave for oneself, citing the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), "We ask Allah for health for us and for you"?

Answer:
No, he did not ask specifically for himself; he said, "We ask Allah for health for us." He said, "For us and for you," so this is a follower of the du'a' for the deceased.