Guiding Children After They Have Grown Up

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Question:
The second-to-last question says: I have children who have grown up, and I am unable to guide them. Do you advise me of anything I can do to guide them, whether through technological means or otherwise?

Answer:
Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) said: "Indeed, your wealth and your children are a trial"

indeed, among your wives and your children are enemies to you, so beware of them

إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ

[At-Taghabun 64:14]

until He said: "Indeed, your children and your wealth are a trial." So there is no doubt that children are a trial. You must be patient, command them to do good, forbid them from doing evil, and oblige them to obey Allah (Mighty and Majestic). You must be patient with this to the utmost degree of patience, even if it is difficult for you.
This is your duty; you are obligated to do this. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

Command your children to pray at the age of seven, beat them for it at the age of ten, and separate them in their beds.

مروا أولادكم بالصلاة لسبع اضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع

Sunan ad-Daraqutni 3:5

Allah (Exalted and Majestic) says:

O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ

[At-Tahrim 66:6]

And He the Exalted said:

And enjoin prayer upon your family [and people] and be steadfast therein.

وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا

[Taha 20:132]

So you must do what Allah has obligated upon you, which is commanding them and forbidding them, and you must be patient with this. Yes.

Source ورثة العلماء — alfawzan.live (1:20:39)

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