The Ruling on Misar Marriage

Question:
The presenter: Regarding a misyar marriage, what do you advise me to do? Does it have specific conditions?

Answer:
I advise you not to enter into a musyar marriage; marry in the ordinary way, and take your wife with you to your home. When children come, they will be in your home, and you and she will raise them. You will find comfort in her, and she will find comfort in you, and she will be a source of tranquility for you. As for marrying women in this manner, this is what leads to the establishment of marital interests. This is what leads to marital interests, and it leads to the loss of the children later on, and other things besides. It leads to the loss of the wife; you will have no authority over her, and you will not know where she goes or how she spends her money. What kind of marriage is this?
This is a marriage that is merely a defective contract, while the rulings of marriage are delayed. This kind of thing is never acceptable; it is never acceptable. The wife should be in her husband's home, and the children should be in the father's home. The husband should be the guardian of his wife; he should not leave her in a state where he does not know where she goes or with whom. She would be free to go wherever she pleases, and she might fall into matters that are not permissible, because he has no control over her and does not know about her. This is a matter that leads to many evils.
We ask: Is it permissible to raise camels through supplication after the period of the obligatory prayer? And they want, by the musyar marriage, to strip the husband of his authority over his wife. That is what he wants: to strip the husband of his authority over his wife. What is the result of this in terms of the loss of the children? And it results in the loss of the comfort the husband finds in his wife and the comfort she finds in him. And it is said that each of them should be a source of comfort for the other.