She says: I am an educated woman and a university graduate, and my husband asks me to wipe his shoes!!
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The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. Our sister is also asking, saying: My husband asks me to wipe his shoes for him, but my self refuses to do so, and I consider it an insult to me, especially since I am educated and a university graduate just like him. I am unable to do this despite his insistence, which will cause a disagreement between us. Am I sinful in this? Please guide us, may Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
The matter in this is very easy, praise be to Allah. Your obedience to your husband in a trivial matter, which is wiping the shoes, is not a difficult thing. It earns you his satisfaction with you and does not burden you with much or make it hard for you. What we see is that you should obey him in this, and there is no insult in it.
The presenter:
Praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh:
As I mentioned, there is no insult in it. It is a trivial matter, and through it you achieve obedience to the husband and his satisfaction. So what we see is that you should obey him in this. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. Some women, Shaykh Salih, if they are educated like our sister here, or if their education exceeds the husband's education, it may generate a certain psychological feeling in them. Do you have a word, Shaykh Salih?
The Shaykh:
Yes. The husband's right is obligatory upon his wife, whether she is educated or not. The husband has great rights over his wife. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whether she is educated or not. Just as the husband has rights over his wife. Yes. Whether he is educated or not, the rights are not considered based on whether a person is educated or not, but only based on their ability and inability.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. If the wife is educated and her husband is not, or if the qualifications are not equal, does it not harm, or should it not be considered in the context of marriage, Shaykh Salih?
The Shaykh:
Yes, in the context of marriage and other matters. In fact, the opposite is required: the more a person learns, the more his humility increases. Good. The more a person learns, the more his humility increases. Good. And the more a person is ignorant, the more arrogance and self-admiration occur in him. Education brings nothing but good. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. Our sister is also asking, saying: My husband asks me to wipe his shoes for him, but my self refuses to do so, and I consider it an insult to me, especially since I am educated and a university graduate just like him. I am unable to do this despite his insistence, which will cause a disagreement between us. Am I sinful in this? Please guide us, may Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
The matter in this is very easy, praise be to Allah. Your obedience to your husband in a trivial matter, which is wiping the shoes, is not a difficult thing. It earns you his satisfaction with you and does not burden you with much or make it hard for you. What we see is that you should obey him in this, and there is no insult in it.
The presenter:
Praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh:
As I mentioned, there is no insult in it. It is a trivial matter, and through it you achieve obedience to the husband and his satisfaction. So what we see is that you should obey him in this. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. Some women, Shaykh Salih, if they are educated like our sister here, or if their education exceeds the husband's education, it may generate a certain psychological feeling in them. Do you have a word, Shaykh Salih?
The Shaykh:
Yes. The husband's right is obligatory upon his wife, whether she is educated or not. The husband has great rights over his wife. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
(peace and blessings be upon him) said: If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would order the wife to prostrate to her husband, because of the greatness of his right over her.
صلى الله عليه وسلم لو كنت امرا احدا ان يسجد لاحد لامرت الزوجه ان تسجد لزوجها لعظم حقه عليهاThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. If the wife is educated and her husband is not, or if the qualifications are not equal, does it not harm, or should it not be considered in the context of marriage, Shaykh Salih?
The Shaykh:
Yes, in the context of marriage and other matters. In fact, the opposite is required: the more a person learns, the more his humility increases. Good. The more a person learns, the more his humility increases. Good. And the more a person is ignorant, the more arrogance and self-admiration occur in him. Education brings nothing but good. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4091- تقول: أنا امرأة متعلمة وخريجة جامعة، وزوجي يطلب مني أن أمسح حذاءه!! - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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