Harshness in speech toward parents due to their sins
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Question:
Another person says: My father and my mother commit some sins that force me to be harsh with them in my speech at times. For example, my father watches a lot of television and loves the series in which women ride in the car alone with the driver, and sometimes she reveals her face and arms to him. Therefore, I may sometimes be harsh with them in my speech, and sometimes I do not sit with them while they are watching the series. Am I wrong in this behavior?
Answer:
Do not be harsh with them, and be gentle with them, for Allah grants through gentleness what He does not grant through harshness. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Isra 17:24], and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan Abi Dawud 4809Sahih (Al-Albani), and he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Indeed, Allah Sahih Muslim 2593." So you should use kind words and follow up your advice with calmness, and in
Another person says: My father and my mother commit some sins that force me to be harsh with them in my speech at times. For example, my father watches a lot of television and loves the series in which women ride in the car alone with the driver, and sometimes she reveals her face and arms to him. Therefore, I may sometimes be harsh with them in my speech, and sometimes I do not sit with them while they are watching the series. Am I wrong in this behavior?
Answer:
Do not be harsh with them, and be gentle with them, for Allah grants through gentleness what He does not grant through harshness. Allah the Exalted said:
And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاHe who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.
من يحرم الرفق يحرم الخير كلهconfers upon kindness which he does not confer upon severity and does not confer upon anything else besides it
يعطي على الرفق ما لا يعطي على العنف، وما لا يعطي على ما سواه
Source
ندوات الجامع الكبير مع الأسئلة - 51 — archive.org (1:31:07)
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