The Ruling on Alleged Sorcery, Delayed Marriage, and Choosing a Wife

Question:
May Allah reward you with good. Do not take up too much of our time. May Allah have mercy on both of you. Therefore, we ask the honorable brothers to stick to the point and for each one of them to listen to his own question, because I have noticed that many of them either find my answer uninteresting or do not understand it, or they assume their question has not been addressed when it has actually been presented. The goal is for a person to pay attention to the answer directly so that you do not waste your time and take up the time of others. Hmm. We are ready for Your Eminence. Yes, yes. This young man says: I am thirty-five years old and have not yet married. For ten years, I have been looking for a righteous wife who will help me in this world and the Hereafter. Some of my brothers told me that I am under a spell and asked me to bring some medicines and herbs. Does this happen? I ask for your advice and your supplication that Allah hasten for me a righteous wife. May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
In the name of Allah, and may the prayers and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah. You are, if Allah wills, not under a spell. The one who told you that has no knowledge; these are delusions that some people say without measure, without verification, and without regard for their consequences. So you should not pay attention to this. And you are, if Allah wills, in a good state in your search for a righteous wife. But do not be overly precise in matters; perfection is not to be attained. Strive for a good wife even if she has some shortcoming, and do not delay in marriage. Thirty-five years is a long time. Hurry with marriage and do not be strict in matters. If you are told about a woman who prays, that is a sign of good, so praise be to Allah, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: If you are told that she prays, then prayer is a sign of goodness. Strive for a woman whose outward appearance, praise be to Allah, is good, who prays, and who is careful with her religion. Do not be precise about every small and large detail. If she comes and you see some shortcoming in her, advise her, teach her, and guide her. And be glad with good news: As for being precise and demanding everything you want, that is difficult. But you must be tolerant. If the woman’s outward appearance is good, and she is consistent in prayer, fasting Ramadan, and not being lax in her religion, that is sufficient. Do not be strict in the other detailed matters. Yes.