The Ruling on a Wife’s Obedience to Her Husband and Fabricating Excuses
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Question:
This woman says that she is a wife who fabricates excuses, and that is when her husband calls her, because she does not desire this matter. She strives to ensure her husband does not become angry with her and accepts these excuses. Now her husband has passed away, and she is distressed by that. What is required of her? Please advise us, may Allah reward you.
Answer:
It is obligatory for the wife to obey her husband in what is good; this is an obligation. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, says:[Al-Baqarah 2:228] He says, “And live with them in kindness,” and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded them to obey their husbands in what is good. He said: regarding his right over her. If he calls her to the bed for his need of intercourse, she must obey him, except in the case of a legitimate legal excuse, such as menstruation, post-natal bleeding, or an illness that would harm her if she had intercourse; in that case, she is excused. However, it is not permissible for her to lie with false excuses. She must obey him in his need for his wife, which may be intense desire; he fears for himself if he leaves off intercourse, fearing for himself from zina (unlawful sexual intercourse) or from the secret habit, which is forbidden. It is obligatory for her, if he asks for her for his need, to listen and obey, even if she has some problems with him, unless there is a great harm that he transgresses. And I know that a great harm is a real excuse, and it is treated if it requires treatment. As for menstruation and post-natal bleeding, no, it is not permissible for her to consent to intercourse during menstruation and post-natal bleeding, nor in the anus; he has no right to intercourse in the anus, nor during menstruation and post-natal bleeding. If he wants to prevent her, and he wants her for that, she prevents him from that. Obedience is only in what is good. As for this woman who disobeyed her husband, she must repent, feel remorse, cease the sin, seek forgiveness frequently, and pray for her husband that Allah forgives him and bestows upon him forgiveness. She asks her Lord that Allah forgive her. And whoever repents, Allah accepts his repentance. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good,
This woman says that she is a wife who fabricates excuses, and that is when her husband calls her, because she does not desire this matter. She strives to ensure her husband does not become angry with her and accepts these excuses. Now her husband has passed away, and she is distressed by that. What is required of her? Please advise us, may Allah reward you.
Answer:
It is obligatory for the wife to obey her husband in what is good; this is an obligation. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, says:
And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority].
وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌAnd I was the mother of one, whoever submits to one, it does not invalidate the woman’s submission to her husband so that he sees
وكنت أم أحد، من يسلم لأحد لا بطل المرأة أن تسلم لزوجها ليرىThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good,
Source
فتاوى الحج ١٤١٠ هـ - ٨ — archive.org (54:20)
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