Advice for a wife whose husband curses her and describes her in ways that do not please Allah

The questioner:
This is a question where a woman asks, saying: I am a married woman, and I have children, and I am patient for their sake. My husband curses me and describes me in ways that do not please Allah. So, for the sake of Allah, advise me on what I can do?

The Shaykh:
Repeat it. Yes.

The questioner:
This woman says: I am a married woman, and I have children, and I am patient for their sake. My husband curses me and describes me in ways that do not please Allah. So, for the sake of Allah, advise me on what can be done, and may you have abundant thanks.

The Shaykh:
He advises you to be patient, to use good manners, to speak kindly, and to advise him. Tell him: Fear Allah, O so-and-so. Seek refuge in Allah from Satan. Fear Allah. Be mindful of Allah. Do not curse. Address him in the best manner. Advise him. Likewise, your father, your brother, or some of the people you know who know him should advise him, so that he may hasten to reform his conduct, if Allah wills. Advise him and be patient. Patience is necessary. This world is a place of hardship, so patience is necessary. And supplicate to Allah that He guide him. Ask Allah for him in your prostration, and at the end of the prayer before the taslim, at all times. Ask and say: O Allah, guide him. O Allah, forgive me the evil of his behavior. O Allah, guide my husband. O Allah, forgive me the evil of his behavior. O Allah, rectify his condition. Ask Allah. Address him in the best manner. Speak to him with kind words. And be hopeful of good. Allah, Exalted and Majestic is He, says: If he is good, if he prays, then there is no harm. But if he does not pray, leave him. Go to the ten [months] and leave him. The one who does not pray is a disbeliever, we seek refuge in Allah. And request from the court for separation. But if he prays, but he is aggressive toward you, his tongue is foul, or his behavior is bad, and he is a good Muslim, then fear Allah, be patient, and strive with him through kind words, good manners, advice, and supplication to Allah that He guide him. And if you have relatives who can advise him—your father, your brother, your grandfather, your uncle, or some of the brothers—advise him with kind words, perhaps Allah will guide him.