Helping the Wife or Father in Performing Hajj
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Question:
May Allah reward you. This questioner says: Is it better for me to help my wife perform the obligatory Hajj before my father performs his, or should I prioritize my father over her?
Answer:
You are not required to do either of these. Hajj is not obligatory for her except with the ability to perform it, and Hajj is not obligatory for her except with the ability to perform it. Whoever is able to perform Hajj should do so when he is able; if he is not able, he owes nothing. It is not as if you are helping one or the other in a way that makes it obligatory. If you help your father, there is no harm. If you help your mother, there is no harm. If you help your wife, there is no harm. If you help a stranger, there is no harm, even if he has no wife, no mother, and no father. This is a duty from you, a good deed in the category of good deeds.
May Allah reward you. This questioner says: Is it better for me to help my wife perform the obligatory Hajj before my father performs his, or should I prioritize my father over her?
Answer:
You are not required to do either of these. Hajj is not obligatory for her except with the ability to perform it, and Hajj is not obligatory for her except with the ability to perform it. Whoever is able to perform Hajj should do so when he is able; if he is not able, he owes nothing. It is not as if you are helping one or the other in a way that makes it obligatory. If you help your father, there is no harm. If you help your mother, there is no harm. If you help your wife, there is no harm. If you help a stranger, there is no harm, even if he has no wife, no mother, and no father. This is a duty from you, a good deed in the category of good deeds.
Source
فتاوى الحج 1410 هـ - 13 — archive.org (34:19)
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.