The ruling on a mother spending from her own money without her husband's knowledge

The questioner:
Many questions have been sent to us, and in truth, every questioner insists that his question be the topic of the answer, but we apologize if that is not possible. One of the brothers says: My mother wants to give people dirhams, a bag of dates, and clean clothes, but my father would not be pleased if he knew. Should she give them without his knowledge? Is it permissible or not?

The Shaykh:
If this woman, who is the questioner's mother, is giving from her own money and not from her husband's money, there is no harm. She may give, even without his knowledge and even without his consent. However, she should consider his feelings and not stir up conflict between them, lest a divorce occur that would harm her children. But if she wants to spend in a way that is without his knowledge to prevent dispute or harm between them, that is one matter. As for spending from his money, no, she has no right to spend except with your permission.

The questioner:
Yes, and from what do you want to divorce?

The Shaykh:
From her money, there is no harm.