The ruling on a mother spending from her own money without her husband's knowledge

The questioner:
Many questions have been sent to us, and in truth, every questioner insists that his question be the topic of the answer, but we apologize if that is not possible. The brothers say: My mother wants to give people dirhams, a bag of zurrat, and clean clothes, but if my father finds out, he will not be pleased. Should she give them without his knowledge, and is that permissible or not?

The Shaykh:
If this woman, who is the questioner's mother, is giving from her own money and not from her husband's money, there is no harm. She may give it even without his knowledge and even without his consent, but she should consider his feelings and not stir up conflict between them so that a divorce does not occur, which would affect her children. However, if she wants to spend in a way that is without his knowledge to prevent dispute or harm between them, that is one matter. But from his money, no, she has no right to spend except with his permission.

The questioner:
And from what do you want to prefer?

The Shaykh:
If it is money, there is no harm.