How do we reconcile the general command to visit graves with the prohibition on women visiting them?

Question:
May Allah reward you, Honorable Shaykh. A questioner says: One of the preachers on one of the channels stated that it is permissible for women to visit graves, which has caused confusion among the people. We want the definitive ruling on this, supported by evidence?

Answer:
Yes, this is the opinion of some scholars that visiting graves is general for men and women, based on the generality of the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "Visit them, for they remind you of the Hereafter." But this is specified by the saying of the Messenger The hadith is good; its chain is good. In a narration, it says: "May Allah curse the women who visit graves." So this hadith specifies the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "Visit the graves." It indicates that this is specific to men, not women. And women visiting graves is a major sin among the major sins, because the Messenger cursed the one who does it, and cursing is not for anything but a major sin among the major sins. The criterion is not disagreement and opinions; the criterion is the evidence; the criterion is following the evidence.