The ruling on proposing to a religious woman when her mother refuses her

Question:
I proposed to a girl who prays and fasts and observes her obligatory duties, but my mother does not want her to be my wife because of a dispute between their families, and she is adamant about this. So, should I obey my mother, or what should I do?

Answer:
Do not rush to obey your mother in this matter. Obedience is required in what is good, not in disobedience to Allah. A wife is important, so if she is good in her religion and upright, you must speak with your mother in a good manner and with kind words so that she may be pleased, if Allah wills. You must also advise the wife so that she presents noble character and good conduct to your mother, and so that there is no mutual hatred between her and your family. The point is that you are on the front line of the Islamic revolution, so you must be careful. Please your mother and those around you with kind words and a good manner, and advise the wife to take advantage of their presence with gentleness and kind words so that, if Allah wills, there will be unity and clarity thereafter, and so that divorce is not needed.