The Ruling on a Wife Traveling to Visit Her Daughter
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The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. Peace.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : May Allah keep you safe.
The questioner : My dear brother, you are Shaykh Al-Albani. I have a problem I would like to present to you, if you please.
The Shaykh : Good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : My dear brother, I am a woman who has been married for thirty years.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Four years ago, my husband traveled to America. And three years ago, I felt that there was someone else in his life besides me. Of course, this is my feeling, and the result of the words I heard from him and the conversation that took place with me. I can tell you that for about three years, he has neglected me. I have a daughter in America who is married; she sent me news that I am going to give birth at the end of this month, and she wants to send me a plane ticket at her own expense so that you can come to attend my birth. I have not seen her for three years, of course. I asked her to consult her father, and her father refused that I travel to my daughter. What is your comment on the matter?
The Shaykh : From which aspect are you asking?
The questioner : Yes, from the aspect that, for example, is it religiously forbidden, for example?
The Shaykh : What is it? What is it that you are asking about, religiously or not?
The questioner : I mean, when my daughter sends me a ticket to travel to America to see her, yes, my husband refuses that I travel, yes, and I feel that he has completely changed toward me, not giving me my full religious rights. Yes, do I have to respond to him, or do I have to act on my own?
The Shaykh : I mean, for three years you do not go to his house, is that so?
The questioner : No, he comes once a year, but he made me feel that, as you might say, that there is something wrong in his life and he does not want me. He does whatever means to get rid of me after thirty years.
The Shaykh : Does he send you maintenance?
The questioner : He sends me money through people. I mean, I receive it; I have an older son who is twenty-five years old.
The Shaykh : I do not care about the details, I do not care about the details. Summarize the answer: Does he send you maintenance or not?
The questioner : He sends me two hundred dinars monthly, not for the children, through people. I mean, he has relieved me of all responsibility from my house. I mean, he sends to his children, to put it more clearly, not to me.
The Shaykh : How many children do you have?
The questioner : I have nine children.
The Shaykh : And they are living with you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : And he does not come to you except once a year.
The questioner : Yes, he comes once a year. The first year, I forced myself on him. The next two years, they did not want me at all, I mean.
The Shaykh : Okay, when he comes to you, does he sleep at your house?
The questioner : I tried; the first year, I forced myself on him. The two years after that, I tried to sleep with him, but he kept away. I mean, in the bed, he did not agree.
The Shaykh : Okay, you say you try to sleep with him, not in your house, does he come down?
The questioner : Yes, in my house. He has no other house here with me.
The Shaykh : Okay, he comes down to your house, I mean, he sees his children. Yes. And he sees you. Yes. Okay, and how many days does he stay in your house?
The questioner : Two months every year, two months.
The Shaykh : Two months. Yes. And in these two months, do you not sit with him?
The questioner : We are in a state of continuous disagreement.
The Shaykh : Okay, did you file a complaint with the Shari'ah court?
The questioner : No, nothing. Until now, I have not taken any action except after consulting you.
The Shaykh : Okay, would you be content to be separated from him if the court granted you the right of separation?
The questioner : In reality, I tried not to be separated from him, but I reached a stage where I can truly be separated from him and live among my children, and even that I am not attached to him.
The Shaykh : Okay, if you have reached this stage, yes, raise your problem to the Shari'ah court. Yes, so if they rule that this is not your husband, yes, then at that time it is permissible for you to travel to your daughter, yes, without his permission, yes. But take care, yes, it is not permissible for you to travel from here to America unless you have a mahram with you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is the answer to your question.
The questioner : Yes, I mean, your opinion is that I raise my problem to the Shari'ah court. If they rule for me to travel, I travel. If they do not rule for me to travel, I do not travel.
The Shaykh : No, that is not it. They ruled for you that they ruled for separation between you and him.
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : This is for what, if he comes and does not stay with you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : But if he is in the state you described, then it is obligatory for you to travel to your daughter, but it is necessary that you have a mahram with you.
The questioner : Yes, I mean, it is permissible for me to travel with my daughter, but I must have a mahram with me.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Okay, Shaykh, thank you very much.
The Shaykh : You are welcome.
The questioner : Welcome, my brother. Goodbye.
The Shaykh : Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : May Allah keep you safe.
The questioner : My dear brother, you are Shaykh Al-Albani. I have a problem I would like to present to you, if you please.
The Shaykh : Good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : My dear brother, I am a woman who has been married for thirty years.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Four years ago, my husband traveled to America. And three years ago, I felt that there was someone else in his life besides me. Of course, this is my feeling, and the result of the words I heard from him and the conversation that took place with me. I can tell you that for about three years, he has neglected me. I have a daughter in America who is married; she sent me news that I am going to give birth at the end of this month, and she wants to send me a plane ticket at her own expense so that you can come to attend my birth. I have not seen her for three years, of course. I asked her to consult her father, and her father refused that I travel to my daughter. What is your comment on the matter?
The Shaykh : From which aspect are you asking?
The questioner : Yes, from the aspect that, for example, is it religiously forbidden, for example?
The Shaykh : What is it? What is it that you are asking about, religiously or not?
The questioner : I mean, when my daughter sends me a ticket to travel to America to see her, yes, my husband refuses that I travel, yes, and I feel that he has completely changed toward me, not giving me my full religious rights. Yes, do I have to respond to him, or do I have to act on my own?
The Shaykh : I mean, for three years you do not go to his house, is that so?
The questioner : No, he comes once a year, but he made me feel that, as you might say, that there is something wrong in his life and he does not want me. He does whatever means to get rid of me after thirty years.
The Shaykh : Does he send you maintenance?
The questioner : He sends me money through people. I mean, I receive it; I have an older son who is twenty-five years old.
The Shaykh : I do not care about the details, I do not care about the details. Summarize the answer: Does he send you maintenance or not?
The questioner : He sends me two hundred dinars monthly, not for the children, through people. I mean, he has relieved me of all responsibility from my house. I mean, he sends to his children, to put it more clearly, not to me.
The Shaykh : How many children do you have?
The questioner : I have nine children.
The Shaykh : And they are living with you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : And he does not come to you except once a year.
The questioner : Yes, he comes once a year. The first year, I forced myself on him. The next two years, they did not want me at all, I mean.
The Shaykh : Okay, when he comes to you, does he sleep at your house?
The questioner : I tried; the first year, I forced myself on him. The two years after that, I tried to sleep with him, but he kept away. I mean, in the bed, he did not agree.
The Shaykh : Okay, you say you try to sleep with him, not in your house, does he come down?
The questioner : Yes, in my house. He has no other house here with me.
The Shaykh : Okay, he comes down to your house, I mean, he sees his children. Yes. And he sees you. Yes. Okay, and how many days does he stay in your house?
The questioner : Two months every year, two months.
The Shaykh : Two months. Yes. And in these two months, do you not sit with him?
The questioner : We are in a state of continuous disagreement.
The Shaykh : Okay, did you file a complaint with the Shari'ah court?
The questioner : No, nothing. Until now, I have not taken any action except after consulting you.
The Shaykh : Okay, would you be content to be separated from him if the court granted you the right of separation?
The questioner : In reality, I tried not to be separated from him, but I reached a stage where I can truly be separated from him and live among my children, and even that I am not attached to him.
The Shaykh : Okay, if you have reached this stage, yes, raise your problem to the Shari'ah court. Yes, so if they rule that this is not your husband, yes, then at that time it is permissible for you to travel to your daughter, yes, without his permission, yes. But take care, yes, it is not permissible for you to travel from here to America unless you have a mahram with you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is the answer to your question.
The questioner : Yes, I mean, your opinion is that I raise my problem to the Shari'ah court. If they rule for me to travel, I travel. If they do not rule for me to travel, I do not travel.
The Shaykh : No, that is not it. They ruled for you that they ruled for separation between you and him.
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : This is for what, if he comes and does not stay with you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : But if he is in the state you described, then it is obligatory for you to travel to your daughter, but it is necessary that you have a mahram with you.
The questioner : Yes, I mean, it is permissible for me to travel with my daughter, but I must have a mahram with me.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Okay, Shaykh, thank you very much.
The Shaykh : You are welcome.
The questioner : Welcome, my brother. Goodbye.
The Shaykh : Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The Shaykh : Yes.
Source
سلسلة الهدى والنور، المجلس 971 — d3watuna.com (13:02)
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