Some fathers choose a wife for their sons without taking the son's opinion into account; what is the guidance regarding this?
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The questioner:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, some fathers choose a wife for their sons without taking the son's opinion into account, such as accepting...
The Shaykh:
Yes.
The questioner:
He says: Some fathers choose a wife for their sons without taking their opinions into account, such as the father saying the son is for his cousin's daughter. Is it obligatory for us to obey the father? And is this part of dutifulness?
The Shaykh:
No, it is not obligatory for you to marry something unless you are the one who desires it. It is not permissible for the father to force his son, nor to force his daughter, into marriage except with someone she is pleased with and he is pleased with and she is pleased with. Forcing is never permissible, and this is not the right of the husband. If the son or daughter refuses, this is not undutifulness to parents, because this is his right. Yes.
The presenter:
The statement of the Honorable Shaykh.
The Shaykh:
It is the father. Yes.
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, some fathers choose a wife for their sons without taking the son's opinion into account, such as accepting...
The Shaykh:
Yes.
The questioner:
He says: Some fathers choose a wife for their sons without taking their opinions into account, such as the father saying the son is for his cousin's daughter. Is it obligatory for us to obey the father? And is this part of dutifulness?
The Shaykh:
No, it is not obligatory for you to marry something unless you are the one who desires it. It is not permissible for the father to force his son, nor to force his daughter, into marriage except with someone she is pleased with and he is pleased with and she is pleased with. Forcing is never permissible, and this is not the right of the husband. If the son or daughter refuses, this is not undutifulness to parents, because this is his right. Yes.
The presenter:
The statement of the Honorable Shaykh.
The Shaykh:
It is the father. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، [920 -954] بعض الآباء يختارون لأبنائهم الزوجة من دون أخذ رأي الابن، فما التوجيه حيال ذلك؟ — youtube.com
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