The ruling on one who says to his wife, “Your face is forbidden to me,” if she conceals something related to marital life
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Question:
His final question says: I am a married man, and my relationship with my wife is very close, to the extent that I said to her, “Your face is forbidden to me if you conceal from me anything related to our marital life.” But I now feel that this is a serious matter, and I want guidance on an action that will free me from this condition. What is the ruling if my wife conceals something from me without my knowledge?
Answer:
If the intention behind this was to urge her to make everything clear to you, then the expiation for an oath is sufficient. She is not required to make everything clear to you if there is harm in doing so. She should make clear to you what is in the interest, as for what harms her in her private matters or angers you, she is not required to make it clear to you. However, she should make clear to you what relates to your interest and the interest of your household. If you want to get rid of that, you must pay the expiation for an oath. You must pay the expiation for an oath, and that is sufficient, because the intention behind this was to urge her and call her to change everything for you and not conceal anything from you. So if you pay the expiation for your oath, that is enough. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih al-Bukhari 6622, and this is the ruling on oaths. And you must repent to Allah from that, because declaring something forbidden is not permissible. So you must repent to Allah, the Exalted. And if you pay the expiation for your oath, there is no harm if she conceals something from you. The point is that you pay the expiation for your oath so as not to put her in a difficult position. Yes.
His final question says: I am a married man, and my relationship with my wife is very close, to the extent that I said to her, “Your face is forbidden to me if you conceal from me anything related to our marital life.” But I now feel that this is a serious matter, and I want guidance on an action that will free me from this condition. What is the ruling if my wife conceals something from me without my knowledge?
Answer:
If the intention behind this was to urge her to make everything clear to you, then the expiation for an oath is sufficient. She is not required to make everything clear to you if there is harm in doing so. She should make clear to you what is in the interest, as for what harms her in her private matters or angers you, she is not required to make it clear to you. However, she should make clear to you what relates to your interest and the interest of your household. If you want to get rid of that, you must pay the expiation for an oath. You must pay the expiation for an oath, and that is sufficient, because the intention behind this was to urge her and call her to change everything for you and not conceal anything from you. So if you pay the expiation for your oath, that is enough. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
and whenever you take an oath to do something and later you find that something else is better than the first, then do the better one and make expiation for your oath.
إذا حلفت على يمين فرأيت غيرها خيرا منها فكفر عن يمينك وأت الذي هو خير
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 7911 - حكم من قال لزوجته (وجهك من وجهي حرام) إن هي أخفت شيئاً يتعلق بالحياة الزوجية - نور على الدرب — youtube.com
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