My aunt talks a lot about my mother and insults her, and she accuses her when she visits her, so my mother stopped visiting her. What is the ruling?
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. His last question says: I have an aunt who severs ties and cuts off relations with her sister, my mother, and despite this, she commits many bad deeds toward her sister, such as talking about her and insulting her. And when she visits her, she accuses her of things she does not say. For this reason, my mother stopped visiting her. What is the ruling?
Answer:
There is no doubt that this is a bad deed and a severing of kinship ties. So this woman you referred to should fear Allah the Exalted, and she should abandon backbiting, talebearing, and bad speech, because it is not permissible for such things to be said about any Muslim, let alone a relative, let alone a sister. So she should repent to Allah the Exalted, and she should do good to her sister and treat her well, and she should fulfill the right that Allah has made obligatory upon her of maintaining ties and doing good, even in speech. Allah the Exalted said, "And speak to people what is good." This applies to people in general, so how much more so to relatives?
As for your mother, who is patient with her sister regarding this matter, she must be patient and seek reward from Allah. Her sister's rights are not dropped because of this; rather, she must maintain the relationship with her. She must keep in contact with her and fulfill her rights, even if the sister treats her badly, because of the sister's rights. Allah the Exalted said, and He the Exalted said:[Fussilat 41:34] the evil deed [Fussilat 41:34] This applies to people in general, so how much more so to a sister?
So your mother must maintain ties with her sister, even if she treats her badly. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged maintaining kinship ties even if they are severed, and the reward is greater for the one who maintains ties with his relatives while they sever them. Is his reward not greater than that of the one who maintains ties with those who maintain ties with him? Indeed, the one who only maintains ties with those who maintain ties with him is considered a reciprocator, not one who maintains ties. The one who maintains ties is the one who maintains them when his relatives sever them. Yes.
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. His last question says: I have an aunt who severs ties and cuts off relations with her sister, my mother, and despite this, she commits many bad deeds toward her sister, such as talking about her and insulting her. And when she visits her, she accuses her of things she does not say. For this reason, my mother stopped visiting her. What is the ruling?
Answer:
There is no doubt that this is a bad deed and a severing of kinship ties. So this woman you referred to should fear Allah the Exalted, and she should abandon backbiting, talebearing, and bad speech, because it is not permissible for such things to be said about any Muslim, let alone a relative, let alone a sister. So she should repent to Allah the Exalted, and she should do good to her sister and treat her well, and she should fulfill the right that Allah has made obligatory upon her of maintaining ties and doing good, even in speech. Allah the Exalted said, "And speak to people what is good." This applies to people in general, so how much more so to relatives?
As for your mother, who is patient with her sister regarding this matter, she must be patient and seek reward from Allah. Her sister's rights are not dropped because of this; rather, she must maintain the relationship with her. She must keep in contact with her and fulfill her rights, even if the sister treats her badly, because of the sister's rights. Allah the Exalted said, and He the Exalted said:
Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better
ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُand thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.
فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌSo your mother must maintain ties with her sister, even if she treats her badly. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged maintaining kinship ties even if they are severed, and the reward is greater for the one who maintains ties with his relatives while they sever them. Is his reward not greater than that of the one who maintains ties with those who maintain ties with him? Indeed, the one who only maintains ties with those who maintain ties with him is considered a reciprocator, not one who maintains ties. The one who maintains ties is the one who maintains them when his relatives sever them. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، لدي خالة كثيرة الحديث عن أمي وشتمها، وتقوم باتهامها إذا زارتها، فامتنعت أمي عن زيارتها، فما الحكم؟ — youtube.com
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