A man saying to his wife: If I have intercourse with you, I have had intercourse with my mother
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, a questioner says: I took my wife to her parents' house before she gave birth, and then she stayed with her parents for a long time. So my mother started reproaching me for that. I said to my mother, while I was angry and wanting to please her, "By Allah, if I have intercourse with my wife, I will have intercourse with you, O my mother." Is this zihar or an oath, even though my intention was to please my mother? A long time has passed since this incident. What is required of me? Please advise us. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
This is zihar. If he likens intercourse with his wife to intercourse with his mother, this is zihar. He must expiate the zihar, and he must not approach his wife until he has expiated the zihar. The expiation is freeing a slave. If he does not find one, he must fast for two consecutive months before they touch each other. If he is unable to fast, he must feed sixty poor people. Yes.
The presenter:
You have done well.
The Shaykh:
And Allah the Exalted knows best, and may Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
Honorable Shaykh, a questioner says: I took my wife to her parents' house before she gave birth, and then she stayed with her parents for a long time. So my mother started reproaching me for that. I said to my mother, while I was angry and wanting to please her, "By Allah, if I have intercourse with my wife, I will have intercourse with you, O my mother." Is this zihar or an oath, even though my intention was to please my mother? A long time has passed since this incident. What is required of me? Please advise us. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
This is zihar. If he likens intercourse with his wife to intercourse with his mother, this is zihar. He must expiate the zihar, and he must not approach his wife until he has expiated the zihar. The expiation is freeing a slave. If he does not find one, he must fast for two consecutive months before they touch each other. If he is unable to fast, he must feed sixty poor people. Yes.
The presenter:
You have done well.
The Shaykh:
And Allah the Exalted knows best, and may Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
Source
75-اللقاء الأسبوعي مع الشيخ صالح الفوزان - 24 — archive.org (1:12:27)
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