The reward of patience with a wife's character

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Question:
A question from Maysir to your Eminence: Is a husband rewarded for his patience with his wife, her nature, her ignorance, and her temper?

Answer:
Yes, this is what the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded: that one should be patient with some of the traits in a wife that do not suit him, being patient with them in exchange for the good in her, for her good is greater. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be

لا يفرك مؤمن مؤمنة إن كره منها خلقا رضي منها

Sahih Muslim 1468b

the other trait. Yes.
And there is no woman who is pure, in whom there is no defect; there must be something in her, for women

they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if

خلقن من ضلع وإن أعوج شيء في الضلع أعلاه فإن

Sahih al-Bukhari 5185, 5186

if you take pleasure in her, you take pleasure

So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness.

فإن استمتعت بها استمتعت بها وفيها عوج

Sahih al-Bukhari 5184

And if you attempt to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.

وإن ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها وكسرها طلاقها

Sahih Muslim 1467b

This is what the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said. Yes.

Source 75-لقاءات مع الشيخ صالح الفوزان - 09-5-2-1433 — archive.org (1:05:26)

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