The Ruling on Preferring Some Children Over Others in Gifts
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The Shaykh:
Member of the Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta
The presenter:
and member of the Council of Senior Scholars. At the beginning of this episode, we welcome Shaykh Fawwaz and thank him for graciously answering the questions of our brother listeners. Welcome. May Allah keep you safe and bless you. May Allah keep you safe.
The Shaykh:
We return at the beginning of this episode to a message sent to the program by one of our sister listeners from Baljurashi. She asked
The questioner:
several questions. Her name is Fuhaymi. She asked several questions in previous episodes, and in this episode she asks Honorable Shaykh Fawwaz, saying: Sometimes I find myself shouting at my mother because of her many questions and my answering her in a loud voice. I used to say "No" and "Yes" in a loud voice, but I regret it deep in my heart, and I pray for her forgiveness, asking Allah to forgive me and her. I ask her for forgiveness many times, I ask her for forgiveness many times, and I pray to Allah for her forgiveness and that Allah forgive me. Please guide me on what I am doing. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
We prefer some of the children in giving gifts or otherwise. Rather, he must be equal among his children. Indeed, a man from the Companions gave his son a gift, so he came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to witness it. The Prophet said.
And he said (peace and blessings be upon him) So among the causes of a child being dutiful to his parents is not preferring some of his children over others, but rather being just among them in words, actions, upbringing, gifts, and other matters.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Member of the Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta
The presenter:
and member of the Council of Senior Scholars. At the beginning of this episode, we welcome Shaykh Fawwaz and thank him for graciously answering the questions of our brother listeners. Welcome. May Allah keep you safe and bless you. May Allah keep you safe.
The Shaykh:
We return at the beginning of this episode to a message sent to the program by one of our sister listeners from Baljurashi. She asked
The questioner:
several questions. Her name is Fuhaymi. She asked several questions in previous episodes, and in this episode she asks Honorable Shaykh Fawwaz, saying: Sometimes I find myself shouting at my mother because of her many questions and my answering her in a loud voice. I used to say "No" and "Yes" in a loud voice, but I regret it deep in my heart, and I pray for her forgiveness, asking Allah to forgive me and her. I ask her for forgiveness many times, I ask her for forgiveness many times, and I pray to Allah for her forgiveness and that Allah forgive me. Please guide me on what I am doing. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
We prefer some of the children in giving gifts or otherwise. Rather, he must be equal among his children. Indeed, a man from the Companions gave his son a gift, so he came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to witness it. The Prophet said
(peace and blessings be upon him) "Did you give your son what you gave this one?" He said, "No." He said, "Then let someone else witness this, for I do not witness injustice."
صلى الله عليه وسلم أكل ولدك أعطيت مثل هذا؟ قال لا، قال فأشهد على هذا غيري، فإني لا أشهد على جورAnd he said (peace and blessings be upon him)
"Would you like them to be equal in their dutifulness to you?"
أيسرك"Would you like them to be equal in their dutifulness to you?" He said, "Yes." He said, "Then do not do it." He said, "Fear Allah and be just among your children."
أن يكونوا في البر نفسه سواء؟ قال نعم، قال فلا إذا، قال اتقوا الله واعدلوا بين أولادكمThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 01/089 — archive.org (0:50)
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