The Ruling on Marrying One Who Abandons Prayer and Divorce by Repeated Oaths
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Question:
Following this, a message was received for the program from a listener who identified himself by the letters S. A. L. S. from Jeddah. Our brother says about himself: I married a righteous woman who observes prayer, fasting, and worship at the beginning of our marriage. As for me, I was a sinner who did not pray, did not fast, and knew nothing about the Islamic religion except a little. Moreover, in my life with my wife, there were many problems, and I was quick to anger and unable to control or restrain myself when the smallest problem occurred between us. Consequently, my tongue was quick, and I would pronounce the oath of divorce upon her face-to-face whenever the slightest problem or dispute arose between us. Based on this, I uttered this phrase, which is the oath of divorce upon her, more than once when a problem came to us. I would rush into anger and pronounce this word. Throughout all this, the family would intervene, come to us, and take me to one of the shaykhs to retract the oath. When I came to Saudi Arabia, I learned a lot about marital life and treating one’s spouse with kindness. When I was guided to prayer, and Allah guided me, and I began to know the path to Allah, to light and guidance, I regretted everything I had missed, and I deeply regretted what happened with this oath. She did not leave the house, and she continued our marital relationship with me? Well, I entrust you to Allah. What should I do, especially if I return to my wife and my children? And how should my life with her be so that I may attain the pleasure of Allah, the Exalted, and His forgiveness and mercy? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As for the matter of marriage, if a man deliberately abandons the prayer and marries a Muslim woman who prays, this marriage is invalid, and the contract must be renewed if he abandons the prayer while she maintains it. However, since you have divorced more than once and your divorces have been repeated, this issue requires consideration. It is obligatory for you to come personally to the Department of Research, Ifta, and Guidance in Riyadh, to attend in person, and to bring with you the matter for the review of His Eminence the Shaykh, 'Abd al-'Aziz ibn Baz, who will look into the issue, if Allah wills.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well.
Following this, a message was received for the program from a listener who identified himself by the letters S. A. L. S. from Jeddah. Our brother says about himself: I married a righteous woman who observes prayer, fasting, and worship at the beginning of our marriage. As for me, I was a sinner who did not pray, did not fast, and knew nothing about the Islamic religion except a little. Moreover, in my life with my wife, there were many problems, and I was quick to anger and unable to control or restrain myself when the smallest problem occurred between us. Consequently, my tongue was quick, and I would pronounce the oath of divorce upon her face-to-face whenever the slightest problem or dispute arose between us. Based on this, I uttered this phrase, which is the oath of divorce upon her, more than once when a problem came to us. I would rush into anger and pronounce this word. Throughout all this, the family would intervene, come to us, and take me to one of the shaykhs to retract the oath. When I came to Saudi Arabia, I learned a lot about marital life and treating one’s spouse with kindness. When I was guided to prayer, and Allah guided me, and I began to know the path to Allah, to light and guidance, I regretted everything I had missed, and I deeply regretted what happened with this oath. She did not leave the house, and she continued our marital relationship with me? Well, I entrust you to Allah. What should I do, especially if I return to my wife and my children? And how should my life with her be so that I may attain the pleasure of Allah, the Exalted, and His forgiveness and mercy? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As for the matter of marriage, if a man deliberately abandons the prayer and marries a Muslim woman who prays, this marriage is invalid, and the contract must be renewed if he abandons the prayer while she maintains it. However, since you have divorced more than once and your divorces have been repeated, this issue requires consideration. It is obligatory for you to come personally to the Department of Research, Ifta, and Guidance in Riyadh, to attend in person, and to bring with you the matter for the review of His Eminence the Shaykh, 'Abd al-'Aziz ibn Baz, who will look into the issue, if Allah wills.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 01/109 — archive.org (5:15)
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