The Ruling on Forcing a Girl to Marry
Machine translationRead the Arabic original
Question:
This questioner says that she is a twenty-year-old girl. A committed young man, who is the mu'adhdhin (the one who calls to prayer) at one of the mosques, has proposed to her. She says, “But I do not wish to marry him because I do not love him; rather, I hate him. My father is insistent on this. So, Shaykh, do I sin by refusing him? And does this fall under what you consider to be a good match in terms of religion?”
Answer:
If she does not desire him, she should not be forced to marry him, nor should she be presented to him for marriage. She does not love marrying him. Marriage is based on desire. If she desires to marry him and he is a suitable match for her, then she marries him, because of the benefits in marriage. But if she hates him and does not desire him, then Allah will provide her with someone else. Her father has no right to force her to marry a man she does not desire or love. Yes.
This questioner says that she is a twenty-year-old girl. A committed young man, who is the mu'adhdhin (the one who calls to prayer) at one of the mosques, has proposed to her. She says, “But I do not wish to marry him because I do not love him; rather, I hate him. My father is insistent on this. So, Shaykh, do I sin by refusing him? And does this fall under what you consider to be a good match in terms of religion?”
Answer:
If she does not desire him, she should not be forced to marry him, nor should she be presented to him for marriage. She does not love marrying him. Marriage is based on desire. If she desires to marry him and he is a suitable match for her, then she marries him, because of the benefits in marriage. But if she hates him and does not desire him, then Allah will provide her with someone else. Her father has no right to force her to marry a man she does not desire or love. Yes.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/223 — archive.org (11:36)
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.