Undutifulness to Parents and the Neglect of Raising Children
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Question:
Salih, let us move on to another question. This questioner says he has used a code name, Muhammad, after his grandfather. He says: Undutifulness to parents and not heeding their advice has become widespread in the present time, especially among the youth. What is your guidance?
Answer:
Yes, this is a forbidden matter. Undutifulness to parents is one of the major sins, and its rank is after shirk (associating partners with Allah). Likewise, dutifulness to parents is among the greatest obligatory duties after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) to be worshipped. So undutifulness is a major sin among the major sins, and it will spread in the end times, as we are witnessing now: severing ties and dispersal, the breaking apart of families and some distancing themselves from others, and boycotts among them. This is among the greatest of forbidden matters. Allah (Mighty and Majestic) said:[Muhammad 47:22-23] And the greatest severing of ties is undutifulness to parents.
There has been coldness and harshness between the parents, and they have also neglected the upbringing of their children and attending to the children's rights. They throw them out while they are still young, leaving them in care centers and with nannies, among other things. Their father does not know them either, except that he brings them food, drink, and necessities.
But he does not inquire about their condition, their upbringing, or follow up with them. They are a trust on his neck. A man is a shepherd over his family and is responsible for his flock. He has neglected this now, so undutifulness has arisen between the parents and their children. The father does not attend to his children, and the child does not attend to his father. This is a great calamity. Indeed, it has become apparent that some people say now that the father has no authority over the son, and the mother has no authority, and they say the husband has no authority over his wife. They call this domestic violence and turn people away from it. They deny the man's authority over his children and the husband's authority over his wife, and they say this is domestic violence. There is no power and no strength except with Allah. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you
Salih, let us move on to another question. This questioner says he has used a code name, Muhammad, after his grandfather. He says: Undutifulness to parents and not heeding their advice has become widespread in the present time, especially among the youth. What is your guidance?
Answer:
Yes, this is a forbidden matter. Undutifulness to parents is one of the major sins, and its rank is after shirk (associating partners with Allah). Likewise, dutifulness to parents is among the greatest obligatory duties after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) to be worshipped. So undutifulness is a major sin among the major sins, and it will spread in the end times, as we are witnessing now: severing ties and dispersal, the breaking apart of families and some distancing themselves from others, and boycotts among them. This is among the greatest of forbidden matters. Allah (Mighty and Majestic) said:
(22) So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship? (23) Those [who do so] are the ones that Allah has cursed, so He deafened them and blinded their vision.
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْThere has been coldness and harshness between the parents, and they have also neglected the upbringing of their children and attending to the children's rights. They throw them out while they are still young, leaving them in care centers and with nannies, among other things. Their father does not know them either, except that he brings them food, drink, and necessities.
But he does not inquire about their condition, their upbringing, or follow up with them. They are a trust on his neck. A man is a shepherd over his family and is responsible for his flock. He has neglected this now, so undutifulness has arisen between the parents and their children. The father does not attend to his children, and the child does not attend to his father. This is a great calamity. Indeed, it has become apparent that some people say now that the father has no authority over the son, and the mother has no authority, and they say the husband has no authority over his wife. They call this domestic violence and turn people away from it. They deny the man's authority over his children and the husband's authority over his wife, and they say this is domestic violence. There is no power and no strength except with Allah. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/240 — archive.org (8:38)
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