The ruling on a son’s anger toward his elderly mother
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Question:
A questioner says: A woman says to me, “My mother is elderly and lives with me because my husband has passed away. Sometimes, Honorable Shaykh, her mind wanders and she curses me while I am serving her. I sometimes get angry at her and do not answer when she calls me. Do I bear any blame for undutifulness to her?”
Answer:
Yes, this is a sin and undutifulness to parents. Answer her, do not raise your voice at her, and do not get angry at her,[Al-Isra 17:23]. As for her, if she curses you while she is not in her right mind, that has no effect. But do not wrong her or provoke her into cursing you. Be prompt in serving her and responding to her requests. This is part of dutifulness to parents and excellence in worship. Yes.
A questioner says: A woman says to me, “My mother is elderly and lives with me because my husband has passed away. Sometimes, Honorable Shaykh, her mind wanders and she curses me while I am serving her. I sometimes get angry at her and do not answer when she calls me. Do I bear any blame for undutifulness to her?”
Answer:
Yes, this is a sin and undutifulness to parents. Answer her, do not raise your voice at her, and do not get angry at her,
say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/279 — archive.org (6:04)
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