The Ruling on Boycotting a Disobedient Wife
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Question:
And may Allah bless you. This questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, regarding a wife, if she does not listen to her husband and is always in conflict with him, and she does not appreciate her husband, while he is patient with her because she is truly committed to the law of Allah, but she is stubborn with her husband in some matters, so he boycotts her for one to two months, is that permissible for him?
Answer:
Yes, patience with a wife is a good thing, and she may reform afterward and her character may become balanced, so being patient with her and giving her time is required. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: And if you take pleasure in her, you take pleasure in her despite her crookedness.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said: A believer does not dislike a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her traits, he is pleased with another. As for her disobeying him in his right and withholding from his right, this is called nushuz (marital defiance). Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) commanded its treatment:[An-Nisa 4:34] It begins with admonition and reminding, [An-Nisa 4:34], [An-Nisa 4:34]. The treatment consists of three steps: first, admonition; second, boycotting in the bed; third, striking that is not severe. This is the right of the husband: striking that is not severe, striking that causes her pain but does not affect her skin or break any of her bones. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you.
And may Allah bless you. This questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, regarding a wife, if she does not listen to her husband and is always in conflict with him, and she does not appreciate her husband, while he is patient with her because she is truly committed to the law of Allah, but she is stubborn with her husband in some matters, so he boycotts her for one to two months, is that permissible for him?
Answer:
Yes, patience with a wife is a good thing, and she may reform afterward and her character may become balanced, so being patient with her and giving her time is required. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
(peace and blessings be upon him) said: Women were created from a rib, and the crookedest part of the rib is its top. If you try to straighten it, you will break it, and its breaking is its divorce.
صلى الله عليه وسلم إن النساء خلقن من ضلع، وإن أعوج شيء من الضلع أعلاه، فإن ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها، وكسرها بطلاقها،The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said: A believer does not dislike a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her traits, he is pleased with another. As for her disobeying him in his right and withholding from his right, this is called nushuz (marital defiance). Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) commanded its treatment:
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ[first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed
فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ[first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them
فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّThe presenter:
May Allah reward you.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/295 — archive.org (10:46)
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