Advice on the importance of marriage over study
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The Shaykh:
May Allah greet you and bless you.
The questioner:
This questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, in truth, I married the younger one, but I left the older one unmarried. She says she wants to obtain a higher degree. What is the Shaykh’s advice regarding the importance of marriage in the lives of young men and women? We ask for guidance in this matter.
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. As for what follows, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080 He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan Ibn Majah 1967Da'if (Darussalam)
Marriage is necessary for the man and the woman; it is necessary. As for study, it is not necessary. And for a woman to obtain a righteous husband who provides for her and begets from her righteous children and good offspring is better for her than study, even if she does not have degrees. If Allah grants her a righteous husband and righteous offspring, that is better for her than a degree. So the woman should hasten to marry. If someone who is suitable for her in religion and character proposes to her, she should hasten, because if she misses the opportunity for marriage, neither the degree nor the job will benefit her. So she should prioritize marriage. The job or the degree is a secondary matter; if it happens, praise be to Allah, without it causing any defect in her conduct, her modesty, or her preservation of her character and religion. Yes.
May Allah greet you and bless you.
The questioner:
This questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, in truth, I married the younger one, but I left the older one unmarried. She says she wants to obtain a higher degree. What is the Shaykh’s advice regarding the importance of marriage in the lives of young men and women? We ask for guidance in this matter.
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. As for what follows, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب، من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج، فإنه أغض للبصر، وأحصن للفرج، من لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم، فإنه له وجاء.If there comes to you a person whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, marry him.
إذا أتاكم من ترضون دينه وأمانته فزوجوه،for if you do not do that there will be Fitnah in the land and widespread corruption.
إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد كبير.Marriage is necessary for the man and the woman; it is necessary. As for study, it is not necessary. And for a woman to obtain a righteous husband who provides for her and begets from her righteous children and good offspring is better for her than study, even if she does not have degrees. If Allah grants her a righteous husband and righteous offspring, that is better for her than a degree. So the woman should hasten to marry. If someone who is suitable for her in religion and character proposes to her, she should hasten, because if she misses the opportunity for marriage, neither the degree nor the job will benefit her. So she should prioritize marriage. The job or the degree is a secondary matter; if it happens, praise be to Allah, without it causing any defect in her conduct, her modesty, or her preservation of her character and religion. Yes.
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