The Obligations of Children Toward a Sick Parent

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Question:
This questioner says: I am seventy years old and suffering from multiple illnesses. My daughter is thirty years old, and she hits me and does not serve me because I do not realize what I am saying or doing some of the time due to my advanced age. What is obligatory for her and my children toward me?

Answer:
It is obligatory for them to fulfill your rights, be dutiful to you, treat you with kindness, serve you, and provide for your needs. Allah the Exalted said:

Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا

[An-Nisa 4:36]

He the Exalted said:

Be grateful to Me and to your parents

أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ

[Luqman 31:14]

Thus, the right of the parent comes after the right of Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He. If the parent is sick, as you described, he is in need of compassion, mercy, and gentleness. Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, says: and do not say to them

say not to them [so much as], "uff,"

تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ

[Al-Isra 17:23]

So how can one hit? This is a warning, because it is not permissible to be rude to the parents, neither in words nor in actions. This is undutifulness to parents, and it is one of the major sins. We ask Allah for well-being. Yes.

The presenter:
May Allah reward you.

Source نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/017 — archive.org (4:45)

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