The Ruling on Crying for the Deceased
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The Shaykh:
May Allah greet you and bless you.
The questioner:
We begin with a message from Umm Abdullah, who says that her son died in a car accident. She says, “I have been crying over him constantly, and this has been going on for five years. I have not been able to be patient. What is the ruling on crying over the deceased, and what is obligatory for her?”
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Baqarah 2:155-156] So, if Allah wills, you are among the patient ones. Be patient and seek reward from Allah, and say, “Indeed, to Allah we belong and to Him we return.” This will ease your grief and bring you reward from Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He. As for crying over the deceased, one is not held accountable for it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) cried when his son Ibrahim died; he wept over him and said: Sahih al-Bukhari 1303 And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Mishkat al-Masabih 1724 Yes.
May Allah greet you and bless you.
The questioner:
We begin with a message from Umm Abdullah, who says that her son died in a car accident. She says, “I have been crying over him constantly, and this has been going on for five years. I have not been able to be patient. What is the ruling on crying over the deceased, and what is obligatory for her?”
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. Allah the Exalted said:
but give good tidings to the patient, (156) Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return."
وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَThe eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our Lord, O Ibrahim ! Indeed we are grieved by your separation.
العين تدمع والقلب يحزن ولا نقول إلا ما يرضي الرب وإنا بك يا إبراهيم لمحزونونGod does not punish for the tears the eye sheds or the grief the heart experiences, but He punishes for this (pointing to his tongue), or He shows compassion
إن الله لا يعذب بدمع العين ولا بحزن القلب، وإنما يعذب بهذا وأشار إلى لسانه أو يرحم.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/037 — archive.org (0:51)
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