Advice for one who has been afflicted with a bad-tempered father who prevents his daughter from marrying
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Question:
This questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, if a woman is afflicted with a father who has a bad character, who curses and insults a lot, and who travels frequently. I have passed the age of thirty, and he has rejected the proposals for me, while I am devoted to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger. He has treated my mother harshly since he married her, and he prays only occasionally. How should one advise someone like this?
Answer:
He should be advised, he should be advised and rebuked, especially regarding the matter of prayer. It is not permissible to be lax or negligent with prayer and to abandon it; this is not permissible. But as for the bad treatment he shows you, be patient with it, and Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) is with the patient. As for the matter of his rejecting proposals for you, this is 'udhl (preventing marriage), and 'udhl is forbidden, a major sin among the major sins. So you should take your case to the judge. If necessary, take your case to the judge and he will look into it. And if he has relatives, such as brothers or uncles, you should also seek their help against him.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you.
This questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, if a woman is afflicted with a father who has a bad character, who curses and insults a lot, and who travels frequently. I have passed the age of thirty, and he has rejected the proposals for me, while I am devoted to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger. He has treated my mother harshly since he married her, and he prays only occasionally. How should one advise someone like this?
Answer:
He should be advised, he should be advised and rebuked, especially regarding the matter of prayer. It is not permissible to be lax or negligent with prayer and to abandon it; this is not permissible. But as for the bad treatment he shows you, be patient with it, and Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) is with the patient. As for the matter of his rejecting proposals for you, this is 'udhl (preventing marriage), and 'udhl is forbidden, a major sin among the major sins. So you should take your case to the judge. If necessary, take your case to the judge and he will look into it. And if he has relatives, such as brothers or uncles, you should also seek their help against him.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/041 — archive.org (12:41)
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