Dutifulness to Parents and Love in the Heart
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Question:
May Allah reward you. This questioner says: I love and am more dutiful to my mother than to my father, because my father divorced my mother and treated her badly. My treatment of my mother, praise be to Allah, is good in terms of dutifulness and love, but there is a distance between me and my father.
Answer:
Dutifulness is obligatory toward the mother and the father, but dutifulness to the mother is more emphatic, because she suffered more hardship in pregnancy, breastfeeding, and raising the child than the father. So her right is more emphatic, and dutifulness to her is more emphatic. As for love, that is in the heart; a person does not control this love, for it is from Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). But he should love his parents according to what Allah makes easy for him, because they are the greatest doers of good to him after Allah (Mighty and Majestic). Yes.
May Allah reward you. This questioner says: I love and am more dutiful to my mother than to my father, because my father divorced my mother and treated her badly. My treatment of my mother, praise be to Allah, is good in terms of dutifulness and love, but there is a distance between me and my father.
Answer:
Dutifulness is obligatory toward the mother and the father, but dutifulness to the mother is more emphatic, because she suffered more hardship in pregnancy, breastfeeding, and raising the child than the father. So her right is more emphatic, and dutifulness to her is more emphatic. As for love, that is in the heart; a person does not control this love, for it is from Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). But he should love his parents according to what Allah makes easy for him, because they are the greatest doers of good to him after Allah (Mighty and Majestic). Yes.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/042 — archive.org (5:22)
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.