The Ruling on Preparing Food for the Family of the Deceased

Question:
This questioner says: Shaykh, what is your opinion on preparing food for the family of the deceased?

Answer:
It is a recommended practice (sunnah) to prepare food for the family of the deceased, to the extent of their need. As the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said when Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred in the Battle of Mu'tah: "Prepare food for the family of Ja'far, for something has come to them that occupies them." Providing food for the family of the deceased to the extent of their need is a recommended practice (sunnah) that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded. However, exaggerating in holding feasts and gatherings for three days, with each day assigned to a different person who provides food for them, is contrary to the Sunnah. Also, this occupies the family of the deceased in serving the guests and bringing out mats and the like. These are customs that must be abandoned. Yes.