Patience with the harm of the great grandfather
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Question:
This questioner says, Shaykh: I have a grandfather who is ninety years old. He harms my father, my family, and my wife with his tongue. I cannot bear these rude behaviors toward him, so I sometimes answer him harshly. I do not hide from you, Shaykh, that in my heart I wish he would pass away.
Answer:
One must be patient. The father and the grandfather have the right to be treated with dutifulness and kindness. There is no doubt that an elderly person may have some irritability due to his age and weariness, so one must be patient with him. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Isra 17:23-24]. The grandfather is a father; the grandfather is a father who has the right to be treated with dutifulness, kindness, and patience. Yes.
This questioner says, Shaykh: I have a grandfather who is ninety years old. He harms my father, my family, and my wife with his tongue. I cannot bear these rude behaviors toward him, so I sometimes answer him harshly. I do not hide from you, Shaykh, that in my heart I wish he would pass away.
Answer:
One must be patient. The father and the grandfather have the right to be treated with dutifulness and kindness. There is no doubt that an elderly person may have some irritability due to his age and weariness, so one must be patient with him. Allah the Exalted said:
say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (24) And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/077 — archive.org (13:52)
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