Punishing Children by Deducting from Their Allowance
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, this questioner, Abu Salem, says: Some of my children are neglecting their duties toward me. Is it permissible for me, Shaykh, to treat them by deducting from their allowance or their gifts?
Answer:
Fulfill the right that is upon you, and ask Allah for the right that is yours. If they fall short in their duty to you, you must not fall short in your duty to them. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Abi Dawud 1697Sahih (Al-Albani) Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, this questioner, Abu Salem, says: Some of my children are neglecting their duties toward me. Is it permissible for me, Shaykh, to treat them by deducting from their allowance or their gifts?
Answer:
Fulfill the right that is upon you, and ask Allah for the right that is yours. If they fall short in their duty to you, you must not fall short in your duty to them. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said : One who compensates is not a man who unites relationship : but the man who unites relationship is the one who joins it when the relationship is cut off.
صلى الله عليه وسلم ليس الواصل بالمكافئ، ولكن الواصل هو الذي إذا قطعت رحمه وصلها.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/078 — archive.org (8:54)
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