The Response to the Aggressor and Forgiveness
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Question:
The questioner, Noun from Makkah al-Mukarramah, says: Honorable Shaykh, there is a woman, may Allah guide her, who has been very bad to me since I was a child in our home. I used to return her badness with the same, but soon my badness turned into good deeds. Every time I do good to her, she becomes worse toward me. Sometimes anger overcomes me and I respond to her with words only. What should I do with her now?
Answer:
Yes, it is permissible to respond to the aggressor in kind; this falls under the category of retaliation, where the punishment for bad deeds is like them. However, forgiveness and pardon are better. Whoever forgives and makes amends, his reward is with Allah. So you should be patient and endure, and do good to her even if she is bad to you. Allah the Exalted said:[Fussilat 41:34]. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good.
The questioner, Noun from Makkah al-Mukarramah, says: Honorable Shaykh, there is a woman, may Allah guide her, who has been very bad to me since I was a child in our home. I used to return her badness with the same, but soon my badness turned into good deeds. Every time I do good to her, she becomes worse toward me. Sometimes anger overcomes me and I respond to her with words only. What should I do with her now?
Answer:
Yes, it is permissible to respond to the aggressor in kind; this falls under the category of retaliation, where the punishment for bad deeds is like them. However, forgiveness and pardon are better. Whoever forgives and makes amends, his reward is with Allah. So you should be patient and endure, and do good to her even if she is bad to you. Allah the Exalted said:
And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.
وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/140 — archive.org (11:40)
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