The ruling on a husband who beats his wife and curses her, and the woman's position toward him
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Question:
The questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, what is the ruling in the Shari'ah, in your view, regarding a man who beats his wife over the most trivial reasons, while she is patient and seeking reward from Allah, and he is frequent in cursing and insulting her? What is the woman's position toward this husband, and what should she do?
Answer:
The woman is required to be patient and seek reward from Allah with this husband, while advising him to abandon these bad traits.
As for the husband who treats his wife badly, curses her, and beats her, this is not permissible. Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nisa 4:19] Therefore, cursing is not permissible, neither toward the wife nor toward anyone else; because cursing is foul speech, and its meaning is expulsion and distance from the mercy of Allah, Mighty and Majestic. In the hadith: In the other hadith: Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1977Hasan (Darussalam), and the one who curses will not be an intercessor or a witness on the Day of Resurrection, as in the hadith. So cursing is ugly, and the Muslim should not let his tongue utter this word or direct it at anyone. As for his cursing his wife, that is more severe, because his wife is the mother of his children and his wife, so he should treat her with kindness. Treat them with kindness. Beating is not permissible except in one case: when she becomes defiant and refuses her husband's right over her. [An-Nisa 4:34] He starts with admonition, so admonish them [An-Nisa 4:34] then seclusion, which is leaving her, withholding honor and attention from her, perhaps she will reform. The third stage is beating, and beat them, but it must be a light beating that disciplines her without wounding her or breaking a bone; it must be a non-harmful beating when necessary, and it is the last stage of treatment. Yes.
The questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, what is the ruling in the Shari'ah, in your view, regarding a man who beats his wife over the most trivial reasons, while she is patient and seeking reward from Allah, and he is frequent in cursing and insulting her? What is the woman's position toward this husband, and what should she do?
Answer:
The woman is required to be patient and seek reward from Allah with this husband, while advising him to abandon these bad traits.
As for the husband who treats his wife badly, curses her, and beats her, this is not permissible. Allah the Exalted said:
And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًاCursing a believer is like killing him.
لعن المؤمن كقتله.The believer does not insult the honor of others, nor curse, nor commit Fahishah, nor is he foul.
لَيْسَ الْمُؤْمِنُ بِالطَّعَّانِ وَلاَ اللَّعَّانِ وَلاَ الْفَاحِشِ وَلاَ الْبَذِيءِBut those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّMen are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/141 — archive.org (14:33)
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