Preventing the wife from maintaining ties with her relatives
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Question:
This questioner, Umm Ghaydah, says: Honorable Shaykh, my husband asked me not to go to my family to visit them because there is a dispute and discord between him and my brothers. So I obeyed him out of fear for my marital life and my children. Then he asked me not to contact them, neither by landline nor mobile phone, for about a year. Now the situation has become unbearable, and I need to speak with my father, my mother, and my brothers, even though you would be surprised to know that this husband has some religion. I ask you to advise him through this program, perhaps he will be deterred. May Allah reward you.
Answer:
This husband must fear Allah the Exalted and not prevent his wife from maintaining ties with her relatives, for maintaining family ties is obligatory for the Muslim. So he must not prevent her from keeping in touch with her relatives, unless there is harm to him in it, meaning they ruin things for him or cause him trouble; in that case, he may prevent her. But as long as there is no valid religious excuse, and it is merely a reaction to the hatred and anger he holds in his heart toward them, he must fear Allah and give his wife the opportunity to maintain ties with her family through visits and phone calls, because that is part of maintaining family ties, and anger should not drive him to this extent. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
This questioner, Umm Ghaydah, says: Honorable Shaykh, my husband asked me not to go to my family to visit them because there is a dispute and discord between him and my brothers. So I obeyed him out of fear for my marital life and my children. Then he asked me not to contact them, neither by landline nor mobile phone, for about a year. Now the situation has become unbearable, and I need to speak with my father, my mother, and my brothers, even though you would be surprised to know that this husband has some religion. I ask you to advise him through this program, perhaps he will be deterred. May Allah reward you.
Answer:
This husband must fear Allah the Exalted and not prevent his wife from maintaining ties with her relatives, for maintaining family ties is obligatory for the Muslim. So he must not prevent her from keeping in touch with her relatives, unless there is harm to him in it, meaning they ruin things for him or cause him trouble; in that case, he may prevent her. But as long as there is no valid religious excuse, and it is merely a reaction to the hatred and anger he holds in his heart toward them, he must fear Allah and give his wife the opportunity to maintain ties with her family through visits and phone calls, because that is part of maintaining family ties, and anger should not drive him to this extent. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/152 — archive.org (11:19)
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